My Top Five Blogging Don'ts


I know the title of this blog post probably sounds really negative but I promise, it's not. I don't believe in 'do's and don'ts' when it comes to blogging - it's your blog, your content and you decide exactly what you want it to be. That's the beauty of blogging. However, there is a few things that are a big no-no for me when it comes to blogging - little things that can stop you from growing as a blogger and showing your true potential. I thought I'd share my top five 'blogging don'ts' - the things we should all try to avoid at all costs to make us happier and more successful bloggers! I hope you enjoy! 

1. Don't feel guilty; My number one blogging don't would definitely be to not feel guilty if you have a few days off, not feel guilty if you can't be bothered to write a post that day or not feel guilty if you've not updated your social media as often as you usually would. I've experienced these feeling of guilt myself and it always leaves me feeling down about myself and my blog so it's something I'm learning to deal with. At the end of the day, you can't be on top of your game at all times. I often feel guilty about not posting enough and think I should be posting more but it's my blog and therefore I can post as often as I like. I'm no stranger to writer's block and some days, I just don't feel like sharing anything. I never want to write a post for the sake of it so if that means having a couple of days between posts, so be it. If people want to read my blog, I'm sure they won't mind waiting for the next post. There's no rule to say we have to post X amount of times per week but there is certain pressures that can affect us all - we all want to be the best we can be but my tip would be not to be so hard on yourself! 

2. Don't compare yourself to others; Following on from my first point, it's SO important not to compare yourself to other bloggers. This is a big no-no in my opinion as it's the one thing that can really leave you feeling down about yourself. Let's face it, there's always going to be someone we aspire to and someone we think is 'bigger and better' than us but rather than comparing yourself to them and feeling like you aren't good enough, use them as your inspiration to work hard and achieve your goals. Social media is a fairly dangerous place when it comes to comparing ourselves - it's full of beautiful people with seemingly perfect lives and things we all wish we had. However, as the saying goes 'don't compare somebody else's highlights reel to your behind the scenes' and that couldn't be more true. Everyone has their flaws, everyone has things going on behind their blogs and social media accounts we don't know about and everyone compares themselves to other people. It's a natural feeling we all experience but to be a happy blogger, it's something we should all try to do less.

3. Don't get too big for your boots; I think this is quite an important one in blogging, especially as your blog grows and you begin to get a large following. When I started blogging, I never expected one follower, never mind 20,000+. However, despite my growing following, I'll never get too big for my boots. I totally appreciate the support I've had so far and will always be so grateful - I still get that feeling of excitement when someone follows my blog, leaves a nice comment or tweets me to say they enjoyed my most recent post. For me, I don't think that will never change and I think it's so important to always remain grounded and never let a follower number give you a sense of self-righteousness. After all, we all work hard to create our blogs and just because someone has 100 followers and someone else has 100,000, it doesn't make either better than the other. 

4. Don't expect anything; Blogging comes with a lot of perks - free products, trips and event invitations. However, one thing I'd say is to never expect anything. I've seen so many people starting blogs recently purely to gain freebies and that's not why anyone should start a blog. You should blog because you enjoy it and you're passionate about the content you're sharing. When I started my blog back in 2011, I wasn't aware you could be sent free products (although I did always wonder how bloggers could afford so many new products, haha!) and I was blogging for almost 12 months before I received my first PR sample. Yes I was very excited when I got that first email but it's never been my top priority or the reason I blog. As I mentioned in my previous point, if you become self-righteous and begin to expect things, it will only take the joy out of your blogging experience. 

5. Don't take others content / images; As a blogger who has had their content stolen before, I can tell you how awful this feels. When you work hard on your content and then someone takes it and claims it as their own, it's really disheartening. If you're just starting out as a blogger, it's so important that you don't take other people's content or images (unless they've given you permission and you're crediting them of course) and claim it as your own. I've seen it happen quite a lot to bloggers I follow over the 4 years I've been blogging and every single time that blogger has been left so upset by it. If you can't create your own content, there really isn't any point in having a blog as that's what blogs are all about - a place to share YOUR thoughts with other likeminded people. However, one thing I will say is that copying/stealing others work is very different to taking inspiration. I've seen a few dramas on social media where people have accused others of 'copying' from them and it can get a bit silly. A lot of bloggers get sent the same PR samples, go on the same trips or go to the same events so chances are there will be a lot of bloggers writing about similar topics. However, unless your content has been copied word for word, let it go over your head as it's really not worth getting angry about as this again will just make your blogging experience miserable.

A bit of a different post from me today but I hope you guys enjoyed it and if there's anything else you think we should avoid when blogging, please let me know in the comments below as I'd love to read what you think!

43 comments

  1. I thinks these don'ts are so great to hear. I especially love hearing from other bloggers to not compare yourself with all that you see on social media. As a new blogger myself it can be disheartening while looking for inspiration in other blogs, some can be so amazing that you think, why bother with mine. But It's a great reminder to think about why you started your blog in the first place and to have fun with it!
    krisa dreamingofglitter.com

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  2. I am very new to blogging and this has helped a lot! Great post Hun x

    http://alyshaheaton.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1

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  3. I agree with all of this, a great blog post all bloggers should see! :)

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  4. Such a lovely post and very inspiring. It sometimes get you down once in a while but posts like this from on of my favorite bloggers are really helpful and very nice.

    Jackie | fashionxfairytale |

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  5. Great tips! I always feel guilty but to be honest, I probably should as I haven't written in around 3 weeks. I am just so busy :'(

    alicekatex

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  6. Love these points and so true and honest! These things are so important in a blogging world and i think allow you to still be a humble person which is so important in life. Thanks for sharing sweet. xx

    Anna-Maria | www.topdrawfashion.com

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  7. I really enjoyed this post! Great advice but I agree it's really important not to compare yourself and just do it because you're passionate. I always wondered how bloggers had so much stuff too haha x
    eleanorfrances.com

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  8. Totally agree with every single topic. Blogging should be all about fun and sharing what you're passionate about and not about freebies or anything. "Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle" is what I'm focusing on, it stops me from comparing myself with others. Having an aim is a good thing but comparing yourself with others do nothing but harm you. It is so sad to hear that people are stealing the photos and content of others, like you said if you can't create your own then don't start a blog!

    Ela BellaWorld

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  9. Love this article! Good tips, especially the one that you don't compare yourself with other bloggers...I always think: wo reads my blog? But I am learning....

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  10. Some really good tips. x
    www.missamyguest.blogspot.co.uk

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  11. I love these types of posts i totally agree with the dont get too big for your boots because i see some bloggers out there with like 100 followers and they think they are zoella and treat people like crap

    www.beautyandtheboy.com

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  12. (Preachy hands emoji) YESS TO ALL OF THIS.

    Sophie x

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  13. I definitely agree with all these, its so important to remember that its your blog and you can post whenever you want - just because other bloggers post every day doesn't mean you have to :)

    Caz | This is Caz

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  14. Loved this post, I always try to upload three times a week at the same time on the same days but sometimes this is hard. Great post xx

    http://www.dotdanielle.com

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  15. Great post Kaykeigh :) totally agree with all your points! Xx

    belle-amiebeauty.blogspot.co.uk

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  16. Such great tips! I'm guilty of feeling guilty lately for not posting enough. Mainly because I feel like I am letting myself down but you're right, we can't be 100% all of the time. Need to enjoy my breaks! Amazing post, thank you! <3

    Tahana
    www.tahanalee.com

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  17. For me, I definitely have an problem with comparing myself to other bloggers. Looking at bigger bloggers for inspiration is great, but if there are people who have been blogging for 3 or 4 years longer then of course they're going to be doing 'better'. I am definitely trying to be more content with what I post and remember that I starting blogging for me, not for anybody else.

    Sophie x | Essential Twenty

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  18. This is definitely one of my favorite posts from you, I think these are all valid tips and things we need to keep into consideration. Everyone seems to compare themselves & it's so hard not to. You see X getting products from Urban Decay or Tom Ford or whoever & you say, wait a minute I have this or I don't have this and that's why I didn't get such and such. It gets really hard because it is such a social world and there's little to NO secrets so it's definitely hard not to compare & I struggle with it all the time! xx adaatude.com

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  19. 'Don't expect anything' I could not agree with you more on this one! I love blogging and being a part of the bogging community. Although my blog is one of the small ones out there I receive countless emails and DMs from people who ask me how to get 'free stuff' and it is so irritating! My response is always the same, I don't know, I'm just passionate and work hard to improve and grow my blog as much as I can. I feel as though so many people are creating their blogs and expecting to become the next 'Zoella' over night without realising how much time and effort is involved in blogging. (Apologies for the long winded comment ha!) -xo

    chloedanielle.co.uk

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  20. This was such a great read and very valid points! Emily x

    http://www.emilyalison.co.uk

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  21. Good tips/advice, especially for those who a new or even an experienced blogger, a nice humble reminder! x

    bekahxjayne.blogspot.com.au

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  22. I love this post, if your not yourself then who are you! Amazing tips hun

    CharlotteSamantha // www.charlottesamantha.co.uk

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  23. All of these are so true.. I see myself in each one of them specially the pressure on posting that many times a week and also comparing myself to others. I guess it is just common in this blogging world. xx

    www.thelisasworld.com

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  24. Fab post!! I've not long started out and I always feel guilty when I havent posted for longer than normal. Thanks for the tips hun!

    www.perpetuallydreaming.com

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  25. This was such a lovely post to read, agree with everything you said!

    Lauren Ashleigh xx

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  26. Excellent advice! You have a great attitude, no wonder your blog is a success.

    http://a-woman-of-a-certain-age.com/

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  27. Great tips would love to see some tips about how to grow your blog following using social media

    http://robynsamantha.blogspot.co.uk/

    robyn xx

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  28. Great post and I agree with you ;)

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  29. These are some really great tips! Sometimes I feel so guilty because I can't update my blog as much I would like and I can't freelance write as much as I'd like because I'm so busy! I'm a full-time university student in my final year so juggling everything is quite hard sometimes.

    Also, I always try to remind myself not to compare myself to other bloggers. It's hard because I see how bloggers have become really successful and I want that too but I think gaining success with blogging is a process and a learning curve. It takes time.

    Chichi
    http://chichi-writes.blogspot.co.uk/

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  30. I'd like to hope no one has stolen my content but I haven't come across anything yet, hopefully never will! I am having one of those weeks where I just haven't been able to be on top with my social media accounts and blogging and I have to be honest I have felt a little guilty but I am so tired I couldn't care either.

    Meme xx


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  31. I've never had anyone take any of my content and claim it as their own (I hope!) but if that happened to me I would be so crushed. If you work really hard on your content and photography, to have someone take it and not acknowledge that it's yours would just be devastating.

    www.thesundaymode.blogspot.com.au

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  32. I love posts like these, it's great advice especially for a new blogger like me. You should do them more often!

    www.thefashionpaige.co.uk

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  33. I'm a relative newbie to the 'blogging world' and everything you've written here is SO true. Thanks for a legit inspirational post!
    Lolavie xx
    http://deliremoda.blogspot.co.uk

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  34. This really helped me out as I am new to blogging! Thank you :)

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  35. I agree with all these points. when I started I used to compare my blog with other prettier blogs, but now I love that I have my own style and my own way of writing and I could not be happier about it! It takes a lot of work and effort but if you love it, then you will be successful! :)

    Yiota
    Pinkdaisyloves.blogspot.com.cy

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  36. It is so important and so difficult not to compare yourself to others and get disheartened.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpaging

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  37. Some fantastic tips! I'm particularly guilty of comparing myself to others. I don't think I do it in a negative way, I think most of the time I use it as motivation to continue to grow as a blogger, but there are always going to be times when it turns into more of a negative thought process than a positive one. I've always done it though, ever since I was in school. Xx

    Tania | When Tania Talks

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  38. I love this :) So real and down to earth, I really love your blog.
    Lucy xoxo
    http://lucyannblog.blogspot.co.uk

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  39. Such a good post Kayleigh. I think bloggers should forgive themselves if they make mistakes too (depending what they are of course!). After all blogging is one big learning curve. Glad you are still going strong. : ) xxxx


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  40. I am so happy i came upon this while browsing the wonderful thing called the internet! I actually have just created a blog and i would be so grateful if anyone could check it out x love ya x
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  41. This post has come at the perfect time for me - sometimes it can feel like it's all getting a bit too much and you kind of wonder why you bother but then you switch off for a bit, stop comparing yourself to those around and remember it's because you love it!

    Emma | HarmonyBlaze.co.uk

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